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If you get your gallbladder removed and your surgeon says it could cause diarrhea for a while but your discharge papers say take stool softener because of the pain medication? Listen to the surgeon.

It hasn't been a fun couple of days.

Thank you for reading my very short rant. Back to the bathroom!

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[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Idk if you’ve considered it but you could get some adult diapers, I know it’s not a thing of pride or whatever but they exist for a reason.

I've considered it, but yeah, I don't know if I could handle an ego hit like that. I'd feel like an old man and I'm only 46. Sitting on towels seems to have worked so far.

[–] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

In that case at least consider the moisture proof pads, if you don’t already use barriers like matress pads that block moisture from the mattress itself and the like - everyone should be using them anyway because it extends the life of the mattress by a seriously significant amount, especially if you sweat at night, but most people apparently don’t, and frankly I don’t get why that barrier isn’t just built in.. when it’s required for warranties.. one urine accident is enough to permanently ruin a mattress, no matter what you do, and those happen all the time.

Anyway if you use a pad, they provide a barrier that is more independent of pride. If you can sit on a towel, it’s no different, but better for your stuff. You can buy puppy pads and nobody will know they are for you, but you won’t have the super negative consequences of no barrier.

I’ve just seen what happens long term and I’m sure you don’t want that on top of the issues you already face. That’s no fun. None of it is, but why let it get worse, you know?

Either way, I wish you a super speedy recovery from all of it! At least the gastro distress, if nothing else.

[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Yeah, I get what you're saying. I think I could handle sleeping or sitting on a pad like that. A diaper though... I realize it's totally not rational, but I just can't face aging like that. Not yet. Anyway, thanks for the advice and the good wishes.

[–] ApathyTree@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Rationality doesn’t factor in. There’s a reason my mom asked for pads and not diapers, even though diapers would be easy to come by and the pads weren’t.

Literally dying, escorted to toilet, sponge bathed.. refused diapers.

She was an RN and worked hospice for a long while so she knew her options and chose the prideful ones.

And that’s ok. You have to live with yourself today and tomorrow and for however long after. Do what makes you comfortable, but please get some moisture barriers before you get to the “omg this cushion is full of mold” stage.

[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago

Fair enough. We actually have some puppy pads around and I've already put them down, so I appreciate what you said.