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I’m in Australia, not the US. I think it’s pretty common? If you’re not straight and a woman, you’ll probably come across it a lot *while dating. Sometimes women will pretend they’re the only one looking, but the telltale is often one picture of her with some dude at the end of her pics. They’ll also try to convince you to do it even if you’re not interested in men.
Edit: A lot of non-binary people also get it actually. I don’t think it really happens to men though.
It happens occasionally to trans men, mostly early in transition but there's always that one illiterate guy who doesn't understand that you're hairy like a wookie and he's not actually interested in you.
That does make sense. I have an enby friend who’s on T, they had a guy use the line “don’t worry, I like girls who don’t shave” on them. This is why I stopped dating cis men for the most part, they just can’t seem to be around trans people without saying something gross.
I've seen similar from women in queer spaces asking for "women and enby/trans masc/trans men" as if they're being slick
~~Huh? I just say “I don’t date cis men” and that seems to work for me? But I’m a trans woman so I don’t know.~~
Wait, I get it now. Forgive me, I hadn’t had any coffee yet. Or my ADHD meds haha
Thanks, but what is a telltale? Sorry I am very ignorant in these things
It’s like a “sign that reveals something hidden”. It’s often said as “telltale signs”. For example, you might say “these are the telltale signs of alcoholism” if you went to someone’s house and there was a half empty bottle of whiskey on the counter at 9 in the morning.
Thanks! Clear now :)
No worries :)
A telltale comes from sailing. They're little bits of yarn attached to the sail. They let you see what the wind is doing. The wind being invisible, a telltale shows you what you can't normally see. In nonsailing use, a telltale is a small thing that shows you the whole truth.