Asexual
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I would say that what you describe falls in the spectrum, but no one can decide whether you're asexual but yourself. As pointed out, a label is just a tool to better understand yourself and find people that somewhat can relate to your experience.
Asexual people can experience libido (sex-drive) or not, aesthetic attraction, can masturbate or not, engage in sexual activities for a number of reasons (feeling close to someone, pleasing someone, etc.), etc.
What really helped me was to listen to other ace people experiences. You can find a bunch of resources online, for a starter I really like the "free from desire" podcast, which touch on a number of the things you describe in your post.
Best of luck in your self-introspection, whether or not you decide that the label is for you you'll have come out the other way with a better understanding of yourself :) .
Also take care, do not put too much pressure on yourself, and please don't let other define your relationship to your sexuality for you.