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I've been living abroad for over half my life in a country where tipping is not the norm. At most you would round up. 19โ‚ฌ bill? Here's a 20, keep this change.

Going to the US soon to visit family and the whole idea of tipping makes me nervous. It seems there's a lot of discussion about getting rid of tipping, but I don't know how much has changed in this regard.

The system seems ridiculously unfair, and that extra expense in a country where everything is already so expensive really makes a difference.

So will AITA if I don't tip? Is it really my personal responsibility to make sure my server is paid enough?

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[โ€“] gun@lemmy.ml 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yes, you do have to tip. Maybe not if it's Chipotle or a place like that. But if someone is waiting your table you have to tip. Yes tipping culture is stupid. No, nothing has changed in the US. They do not have a living without tips, so refusing to tip cuts into their living expenses after they have courteously served you your food. It's rude

[โ€“] bappity@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

trouble is that by tipping you are enforcing tipping culture, giving the employers an excuse to underpay. You can't win...

[โ€“] mintyfrog@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago

Tipping culture comes from minimum wage laws. Laws need to change before culture could change.

[โ€“] jonne@infosec.pub 1 points 1 year ago

Yeah, but you can change that by going to the rare places that have a no tipping policy. Don't just refuse to tip servers knowing that that's the only way they get paid.