Yes these labels are meaningful and can help you define who you are and what you want but don't let them get in the way of finding someone who wants to consensually rub parts. It's really just an Internet thing and niche sex culture.

[–] SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 11 months ago

I wouldn't say bdsm is very niche lol

[–] princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 11 months ago

Someone’s clearly never been on grindr.

[–] chumbalumber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 11 months ago

"it's really just an internet thing" is just completely wrong.

If I'm a top and am not comfortable bottoming, then no matter how attractive the guy I'm not going to want to get with another top (yes, I'm aware of frotting and giving head, but sometimes you want penetrative sex yk). So I put that on my profile, to help ensure I match with someone I'm going to be sexually compatible with.

Beyond preventing wasting time, it also helps give clear boundaries and ensure that hookups are safer for both involved.