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From Graeber's The Dawn of Everything:
Graeber goes on to give a couple of these accounts. They tend to mention a loneliness associated with "western civilization," as well as a feeling that I think lines up very well with what Marx described as alienation.
Later in the book, and I apologize that I can't find the reference right now, he comes back to this topic for a little bit, and talks about the depths of relationships that these people describe, and how their relationships in the "civilized" world are more shallow and less satisfying. Deep human relationships are the opposite of fake, so I think here we have a point in favor of "yes."
Add to that that the concept of "privacy" as we know it is relatively new. It's been 10+ years since I read a book about this, the title of which I can't even remember, but it argued that the expectation of domestic privacy, even from one's own family, is a phenomenon from the last few hundred years, especially outside the elite. People lived far, far more communally, with the expectation that they just were in each other's business more. I'd argue that it's a lot harder to be fake if you can't hide who you really are.
Between those two things, I think it's reasonable to argue that yes, society has gotten more fake.
Anyone can watch videos of some african villages being visited by outsiders and how happy the local population generally appear. There's a ton of negative stuff for those people to deal with, but I think there's something to be said about the benefits of communal living no matter how much I try to convince myself it's fine being by myself.
What if, let's say, that person has something to hide... nothing dangerous or that might cause harm to others, something that society frowns upon. My reasoning is that, it would be OK to be "fake" in those circumstances.