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What do you do when you’re really f’king angry? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago by _pete_@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I’ve not had a good day today. The kids have been shits, my wife has winged at me for not doing something I have already done, I’m hot, tired and stressed from work and fed up of not having a good nights sleep due to my 3 year old waking us up in the middle of the night constantly.

I want to rage at something but I can’t leave the house. I have access to a gaming PC, PS5 and all the movies the streaming services have to offer, my wife isn’t home so it’s just me and a couple of kids who should be asleep in the next hour or two.

I need some catharsis, what would you do?

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[–] gsfraley@vlemmy.net 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

This is more preventative than something that would help you now, but try to practice gratitude/active appreciation. It's a bit of a slog to start, but once you get in the habit you'll feel overall more positive and more directly in control of how you feel at times like this.

Basically, take time a few times throughout the day to acknowledge something you're thankful for or are enjoying, and then say or murmur it out loud to solidify it. Sunny weather or a crisp morning? Feel good about it for a second or two. Those headphones your relative or friend got you as a gift sound banging? Mentally thank them for it.

This is one of the few therapeutic practices that have a universally positive impact on mental health and outlook, and it's definitely served me well in general as well as in very similar circumstances to what you're dealing with.

https://newsinhealth.nih.gov/2019/03/practicing-gratitude