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I don't use deoderant; I don't feel the difference and I never really cared much about my smell; but my parent keeps bringing it up and it's annoying.

Also, what's wrong with smell? Human smells differ anyway.

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[–] MerchantsOfMisery@lemmy.ml 13 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)

What kind of person do you think I am?

A contrarian who would rather play these stupid games instead of helping a comrade out by recognizing a problem they have and giving good advice? You're not helping here, you're just enabling poor hygiene because you're way too preoccupied with playing the devil's advocate.

You said

Are you doing everything that will better your chances at getting a job or a date?

in response to someone saying

They’re trying to help you learn the things that will help you get a job, or have friends, or go on dates. In short, they’re being a parent. Help them help you.

Notice how you conveniently left out the part about this helping to get a person friends? Instead, you fixated on them being hygienic only for the sake of getting a job or dates. Why did you do that? Surely you understand the importance of hygiene in relation to making/having friends-- something extremely important for one's mental health?

Stop playing this game. It especially sucks because you're playing this contrarian game when someone in a bad situation is basically asking for a reality check, but instead of giving them a reality check you're just entertaining/enabling their incorrect beliefs.

[–] Stoned_Ape@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I give up. You are simply waaaaay to ingrained with trodden paths to be able to look left or right. You only know forwards, and any deviation feels like an insult to you. I don't have a problem with every form of conservatism, but the one that can't explain itself and simply does things because they were "always" done is dangerous.

I know that you are sure that you're progressive and shit, but you're not. You are hung up in old ways that you don't question, and hate on those who do.

By the way, I have a buddy who doesn't use deo. It's okay for me. It stinks a bit when he comes, but I forget about after a few moments, and from then on it's okay. He asked once if it is okay for me, and I replied that it is, and that I think it is cool that he does what he wants despite social pressure.

And you're suggesting that this is wrong?

[–] MerchantsOfMisery@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Translation: "I don't mind if people fart in my presence, in fact I have a friend who farts near me and I think it is cool that he just does what he wants despite social pressure. Are you suggesting that this is wrong?"

[–] Stoned_Ape@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Dude. Are you seriously suggesting that people can't be fine with farts or something?

I never thought that people THIS square would be found on Lemmy.

[–] MerchantsOfMisery@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

"Wow you don't think people who stink are cool? You don't think they're rebels against societal pressure? What a square!"

Ok now I'm done replying to you and your foolishness in this thread. I think you misinterpreted what leftists meant when we talk about revolting.

[–] Stoned_Ape@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

If you think not using deo is "revolting", then that's exactly the problem. But, it is as you say, lets stop talking about this. We won't find common ground here. It's all wrong, and there are no opinions about this. Of course.

[–] MerchantsOfMisery@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 years ago

True. One might even say this discussion stinks.