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[–] optissima@possumpat.io 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

"I want a smoking hot, submissive girlfriend, but I am a misogynist."

Ftfy, women don't date people usually because they're assholes, those other features are "correlation ≠ causation" situation.

You are the source of your success.

Good sentiment but scientifically disproven.

That being said, if you want to see something in the world, the fastest way to execute your idea perfectly is to do it yourself.

[–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

Fair points both. I was going for more of the hypocrisy and lack of effort regarding appearance, and the double standard. Being a misogynist isn't the default position, and it takes effort to be an asshole. Not to mention, a great sense of humor and a kind personality smooth over a lot of physical imperfections.

And you're right that luck and circumstances have more to do with your absolute success than anything. But relative success is often within your sphere of influence. Of the things you can control, your effort is most likely to be highly correlated with relative success. Sometimes the deck is stacked against you, and in those times just surviving requires phenomenal effort. But that's still a form of success.