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[–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 22 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Obviously, this is ridiculous, but how many seemingly normal people have analogous dreams.

"I want to run a company, but never went to business school or managed people."

"I want to invent the next killer app, but need some people who know how to program."

"I want a smoking hot, submissive girlfriend, but I am out of shape, spend no time on my appearance, and have trouble speaking to other people out loud."

Athletes, musicians, investors, writers, artists, we want it all and we want it now.

What are you doing today to fulfill your dreams? You're not going to win the lottery. You're not going to be "discovered" by someone in power. You are the source of your success. Set your goal and work towards it right now.

[–] optissima@possumpat.io 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

"I want a smoking hot, submissive girlfriend, but I am a misogynist."

Ftfy, women don't date people usually because they're assholes, those other features are "correlation ≠ causation" situation.

You are the source of your success.

Good sentiment but scientifically disproven.

That being said, if you want to see something in the world, the fastest way to execute your idea perfectly is to do it yourself.

[–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

Fair points both. I was going for more of the hypocrisy and lack of effort regarding appearance, and the double standard. Being a misogynist isn't the default position, and it takes effort to be an asshole. Not to mention, a great sense of humor and a kind personality smooth over a lot of physical imperfections.

And you're right that luck and circumstances have more to do with your absolute success than anything. But relative success is often within your sphere of influence. Of the things you can control, your effort is most likely to be highly correlated with relative success. Sometimes the deck is stacked against you, and in those times just surviving requires phenomenal effort. But that's still a form of success.