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I just wanted to comment that this advice will likely minimize your chances of finding someone.
"Go out and do things you enjoy and develop actual connections" is bad advice?
pursuing your goal while acting like you are not pursuing it is counterproductive.
Jesus fuck that's completely misinterpeting what I said. I said DON'T go trying to hook up. Forget that goal entirely. If all you want is to fuck go to the bunny ranch in Reno.
If you actually want a relationship, a genuine connection, Go to meet FRIENDS. If you're an actually likeable person people will want to be around you and be with you. But this neckbeard incel attitude is incredibly off-putting, and it makes nobody want to be around you. It's all self-fulfilling prophecy.
I say that unless you never go out and have no friends friends and no hobbies that's going to be a massive waste of time. You should let the other person know about your interest in some way and see if they are interested as well. if the best way to find someone is to do what you're saying there wouldn't be a reason for dating apps in the first place.
EDIT: I'm not even sure why you are calling me names when you could not even understand what I said. you used the same derogatory terms against someone else that disagreed with you. You come off as very insecure.
You are still misinterpreting me. And claiming I'm misinterpreting you as well lol. Of course you still have to shoot your shot lol. Maybe I'd just assumed that was obvious.
I use names because it's exasperating and frustrating to have a conversation with pessimists that always have an excuse. I get frustrated when people act like shit is supposed to fall in their laps and complain when it doesn't.
Relationships take work. Finding a relationship does, too. It takes subtelty and nuance.
I never said it's easy or that because your advic is bad there is no better way. I am just trying to save them from your bad advice. I wouldn't want them to become pathetic incels.
Shut the fuck up