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Sore Losers of Lemmy: What Helped You Start to Lose with Grace? (lemmy.sdf.org)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by JAJLWolf@lemmy.sdf.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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EDIT: Thank you all so much for your thoughtful input. It means so much to me.

Hi, all. I'm looking to change my nasty tendency to be a sore loser, particularly when playing games. I tend to personalize losses that are of no consequence. When the game starts to shift against me, I often stop trying as hard because it feels hopeless. My partner is much more proficient at board games than I am, and I don't want this toxic trait of mine to make games less fun for us. What are some things you all tried to lessen this train of thought, if you've experienced it?

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[–] Buffalobuffalo@reddthat.com 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

At times I am a sore loser, it’s not that I care if I won or lost a game. What used to upset me was getting to a point in a game where you feel losing in inevitable and no decisions you can make will allow you to win. Yet, the game is not over it might have 30 minutes left.

One thing to try is play different games. Monopoly is probably one of the worst games for this you can spend 2 hours slowly losing all your properties, just don’t play it. Personally I like games like ticket to ride, where a large part of the final score is hidden. Because you don’t know exactly where you stand the game it makes it easier to believe you have a path to victory, or at least not last place.