What is tinder like these days if you don't mind divulging? I met my wife on Tinder (~2015) and while I'm ever-grateful I've heard horror stories from my friends about what it's become.

[–] jet@hackertalks.com 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Tinder is very active in my area. I have a decent number of matches, and try to start conversations with the matches, of the conversations I try to setup a face to face to face meet pretty quickly.

I'd say most people I meet are normal good people. There are some crazies, some people who are selfish, some people who are impulsive. I can usually get a good assessment of the personality by the end of the face to face.

Given the organization tools of tinder, if match doesn't turn into a date and move off the tinder chat platform, the conversation gets lost in all the other matches and conversations very quickly. I totally understand why people on tinder "ghost".. too many messages and you just lose people/ conversations.

Overall I'd say tinder is a great tool still, but it relies on your social skills, and self motivation to have a good time.

[–] DudemanJenkins@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

It's good to hear some people having a reasonable experience. When I moved to a new city I didn't know anyone so I used Tinder to go on as many dates as possible and it was honestly nice getting out and meeting people I otherwise wouldn't have at places I certainly did not know. Some weird stories mixed in but what is life without a few.

[–] jet@hackertalks.com 1 points 11 months ago

100% look at it as an adventure and uou have the best time, no expectations