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Would a federated dating site work well? What would it look like? (startrek.website)

submitted 1 year ago by swab148@startrek.website to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Basically title, every bit of online dating nowadays is either Match or Meta, and we're all about breaking corporate chains right?

So these are the thoughts I had:

Matches based on simple user selection: age range, lifestyle, hobbies etc. None of that dumb algorithm stuff that makes you reset your profile every month.
ActivityPub protocol so that anyone can run their own instance, but can also be blocked if anything heinous happens.
E2EE for messaging (and anything else if it's possible).
Someone wrote an open-source anti-CSAM script for Lemmy recently, I hope we could adapt that to our use.
Just, like, everyone have a good time on this app, we're here for love lol

I am not a coder, so I would have no idea how to do this, but I wonder about the interest in such a creation. Maybe some of you out there could make something I could use to get a date (pls).

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[–] shrugal@lemm.ee 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Federation is not just a new technology, it's a new (imo better!) way to govern and distribute power in online services. Of course we should explore the possibility of creating federated alternatives for everything, we would be dumb not to. And it's fine if for some of the services the answer is no, that doesn't make the question bad!

The problem with Crypto imo is that many people don't actually want to improve things, especially the loud ones. They just want to make a profit and have no problem scamming others for it.

[–] TauZero@mander.xyz 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

a new (imo better!) way to govern and distribute power in online services

I'd argue federation is the old way, the original way the internet was built, and the centralized walled-garden ecosystems ran by FAANG is the new way. Email, usenet, even http and world wide web itself are examples of federation.

[–] shrugal@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

Yeah I think you're right, in fact federated systems have existed even before the internet. But it's new for the kinds of services we use today, like globally connected instant messengers and social networks.