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It's true. At 28 I'd been dateless for 10 years, doing the sad neckbeard incel thing. One day a friend of a friend received two free tickets to a speed dating event. He didn't want to go, but he said he would go if someone else went with him for moral support. In a very out-of-character move for me, I volunteered and went along with him. It was the first time in over 5 years I'd been to a bar. We did 5 minute dates with 15 different women. It was the most women I've spoken to in one night in my whole life. There was only one candidate I connected with, I submitted her as a match. The next day I got an email saying that she had matched with me too! I got her email, and chatted via email for about 6 weeks, then organised to go on a real date. The rest is history from there, we're coming up to our 10th wedding anniversary.
So yes, going outside, interacting with people, it works. Its not a trick guys.
That's not "going outside", that's going to IRL tinder