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Would a federated dating site work well? What would it look like? (startrek.website)
submitted 1 year ago by swab148@startrek.website to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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Basically title, every bit of online dating nowadays is either Match or Meta, and we're all about breaking corporate chains right?

So these are the thoughts I had:

  1. Matches based on simple user selection: age range, lifestyle, hobbies etc. None of that dumb algorithm stuff that makes you reset your profile every month.

  2. ActivityPub protocol so that anyone can run their own instance, but can also be blocked if anything heinous happens.

  3. E2EE for messaging (and anything else if it's possible).

  4. Someone wrote an open-source anti-CSAM script for Lemmy recently, I hope we could adapt that to our use.

  5. Just, like, everyone have a good time on this app, we're here for love lol

I am not a coder, so I would have no idea how to do this, but I wonder about the interest in such a creation. Maybe some of you out there could make something I could use to get a date (pls).

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[โ€“] jet@hackertalks.com 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

The main hurdles I see are

  1. moderation of troll users, the unending flood of dick pics.

  2. Spammers, catfishers, who love to flood these sites.

  3. Not giving away too much privacy in terms of location sharing, or seeing who matches with whom.

  4. Safety, what if something goes wrong with a date, what recourse do people have?

I think the upside is bigger then the downsides. It's worth the effort to build, just needs lots of thought to do in a decentralized way.