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Do you think monogamy will always be the main "form" of earth or do we just break someday this code and just "do whatever we want" (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago by Violett_Queen@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Will this one-by-one system forever be our main thing or do you think we will break monogamy and maybe "team up" as groups or something?

And yeah polygamy is a thing but do you think it will catch on to "the upper class"?

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[–] Wahots@pawb.social 16 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Anecdotally speaking, probably not. I haven't seen many poly relationships really last, nor have many of my friends (all queer).

I do see the rise of grandparents caring for children as a thing though, as wages continue to stagnate and both parents are forced to work. Intergenerational housing too. Multiple friends buying houses nearby and caring for kids if one parent is fiscally fortunate enough to be stay at home. That sort of thing.

[–] wombatula@lemm.ee 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's just daycare with less steps.

[–] Wahots@pawb.social 5 points 1 year ago

It is!

[–] Karius@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago

This was how communities worked for most of human history until the advent of capitalism and urbanization

[–] Crackhappy@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I, after some admittedly short research found averages for monogamous relationships (including marriage) anywhere from 18 months to around 4 years. Which surprised the heck out of me. I've been Polyamorous for the last 24 years and the shortest relationship I've had in that time is 6 years. Most of my poly friends are also in quite long term relationships but that may just be a function of the friends I make.

This is also an entirely anecdotal response to your experiences as well.