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This is the community to talk about communities and learn how we can make communities better - create the ones we would like to see in the world, and improve the ones we happen to be in.

This group operates under the understanding that by being raised mostly in authoritarian structures of some kind or another we have unlearned a lot about healthy equal-to-equal relationships and healthy self-ruling communities, but it's still out there somewhere. Let's get this power back and collect knowledge here! Examples of what could go here:

Personal stories: your experience matters. Let's learn from each other's successes and failures (no, they were not really failures, they were learning experiences!)
How to create/maintain a community
How to solve conflict
Differences between physical/online communities?
Different communities: local, hobby, mutual aid, based on origin, ...
Multi-generational communities: pass on the poison or plant seeds?
Split or stay together? When fundamental values collide

Be kind to each other, we are all learning.

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schmorpel

Welcome to a community where we talk about communities (self.community_community)

submitted 1 year ago by schmorpel to c/community_community

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Note that communities doesn't just refer to the hippie variety. Community is also: your family, your village, your online friends, your class. Community are the neighbours next door. When I moved into my new home my neighbours came and brought food - and I realized that I really didn't know enough about communities anymore, so I'm here to learn.

A village community is different from an online community. You cannot just change it from one day to the next. Not every expectation in a village might agree with you: there is a soft pressure from some people to join some of the religious festivities and have the priest bless your house, not so much my thing - but it limits full integration and makes that I remain foreign.

I moved into the first community of the hippy/punk variety when I was 17, and even though it appeared a continuous failure at the time (all the conflict, all the people arriving and leaving) it did keep me alive and sheltered and in good spirits for 4 years and the place is still in the hands of a group, not one person, till today, yay.

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[–] schmorpel 2 points 1 year ago

You're right, maybe I should have been more specific and call it 'unskilled in handling own emotions' and 'unskilled in handling conflicts'.

I did visit a few places where conflict was replaced by common singing and dancing and submitting to [someone or something who knows better than you] , and it felt extremely off. The smiles of people are all off in that case.