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How does one girl mode? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by skymtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

Ive watched videos and I always end up getting really overwealmed, its also cost. Like the thrift stores in my area arnt very decent, and you can't try on anything anymore but I'm still on a budget. I kinda want to avoid shein, cause sizing was strange, and child labor. How stuff fits is also kinda hard since I don't really have hips and given I started puberty at like 12 I doubt they will ever exist on my body. I have some basic fem T shirts and Jeans I need to wear a belt which ive gotten gendered correctly a few times while wearing.

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[–] skymtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My issue is I was larger pre transition, and I havent really gone down since than, I also really dislike my double chin. It kinda hurts me when I look at photos. It looks masc.

[–] EsheLynn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm sure you saw my pic the other day. My biology isn't doing me any favors either. And so what if you were larger pre-transition? As I said before, if you are serious about losing weight, start tracking your calories, and start going for walks. Cut out sodas and other sugary drinks and foods. Sugars are the enemy.

I put my baby pic away. I don't keep any of my pics pre-coming-out out where I can see. Don't look at photos. Why are you looking at them? Stop it. Stop punishing yourself. You know you hate looking at them. So, don't.

[–] skymtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My issues is these are current photos? Ive told friends to not take photos of me and I do feel a little sad and it hurts me. Its been hard to walk in my area (no sidewalks) (assumption of criminal activity if walking) and it's hard to have a decent diet. I dont even really know what I should buy and every time I ask online o get vauge information overload and rude comments.

[–] EsheLynn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Keto worked for me for a while. It's a high fat, mid protein, low carb diet.

You want to keep carbohydrate intake super low. Basically, your veg intake will mostly be green leafy veggies. Fruit, for the most part, is a no-go. Fruit is super high in sugar.

No bread, no pasta.

Allllllll the meat you want. Burgers, wapped in lettuce. Meat based (vs bean based) chili.

There are many, many keto recipes out there. But again, all diets boil down to minding your calorie intake. It may help you to download a calorie tracking app.

Do you have a local park you could walk at? Bicycling? Pushups and situps at home? There's ways, friend. I sincerely wish you luck.

[–] skymtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I have been trying one meal a day, but I have had little success with it cause I just get really sick and don't do anything all day. in theory I could be loosing weight but I would be unlikely to notice anything for years, but I guess that goes for any diet.

[–] EsheLynn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Then you aren't taking care of your body well. Your body still needs energy, and if you don't have enough energy to move, you won't be losing weight. You will be too tired to exercise, and won't burn any calories.

Your body is trying to conserve energy cuz you arent taking care of it well. Three small meals will treat you so much better than the one. It sounds counterintuitive, I know, but if you don't feel well enough to do anything, you won't.

Edit: could also be why your mental health has been in the shitter. If you aren't eating well, it really messes with you, mind and body. Eating so little will make you sick, foggy, and have no energy to do anything

[–] skymtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I mean the meals are decently sized and I dont always do it, but I do try too but I'm mostly unsuccessful

[–] EsheLynn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago

Well, I gave you my advice. If you use it or don't, that's up to you. Good luck, Godspeed.