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[โ€“] sadcoconut@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'd suggest not calling anything out. People may well not hear exactly what you said and, even if they do, are unlikely to be able to process the information quickly enough. They'll end up guessing what to do and that will often result in them doing the 'wrong' thing.

I never call out or ring my bell, and it works great every time. Except then people get pissed for some reason that I didn't ring my bell? No idea why they care, I'm not going to hit them.