I just wanted to share that you don't have to be "traditionally beautiful" to be considered a woman. I am a woman. I am aware I don't conform to society's vision of a woman. But I am a woman.
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You actually look a lot like a younger version of my aunt! She also rocks the dark hair red lipstick combo.
I noticed I do have older auntie vibes on my good days. Not a bad thing, just wish I had a chance to be a hot valley girl, but, not in the cards I guess.
Sorry, I didn't mean you give out an older vibe at all, it's definitely a "cool aunt" vibe, the one the niblings come to for advice about sex and drugs and stuff they wouldn't want to talk to their parents about..
From the UK, and the valleys here probably don't have the same style that you mean lol but if it's a look you wanna try I say explore and have fun! Either way, you already strike this random stranger as stylish and confident 😊
Oh, I took no offense at all! I get the cool older aunt vibes. I pick up the same thing lol. Ya, I wish I could go all Cali girl, short shorts, crop top, but, it wouldn't be very flattering on my body.
And ya, I just try to make do with what I have.
Ok, I'm glad!
I can definitely relate to wanting to wear a style you think/know you can't pull off, but also know that we're generally our own worst critics, seeing things about ourselves others would never notice, so it's a balancing act between wearing what makes you happy and not pushing yourself too far that you then feel uncomfortable just to fit an image you have in your head (I won't even go in to what creates these "ideal" images in our minds in the first place).
One tip I got years ago that has fixed many outfits for me - choose top or bottom to be the focus point, so if you're wearing a fancy skirt, pair it with a more subtle top, or if it's a sexy top, pair with more subtle bottom, that way it doesn't become "too much". With that in mind, maybe try short shorts with a slightly longer more flowing top? Or a crop top with some high waisted jeans? I could definitely see you working a halter top, you've got the collarbone for it.
Anyway, sorry for the unsolicited advice.. 😂