Men's Liberation
This community is first and foremost a feminist community for men and masc people, but it is also a place to talk about men’s issues with a particular focus on intersectionality.
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Recommended Reading
- The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, And Love by bell hooks
- Politics of Masculinities: Men in Movements by Michael Messner
Related Communities
!feminism@beehaw.org
!askmen@lemmy.world
!mensmentalhealth@lemmy.world
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My friend and I were talking about this the other day. I’m an old millennial. He’s a middle millennial, but his brothers are gen Z, and we all get together on the weekends and play games.
Anyway, My friend asked if it made me uncomfortable when he hugged me or shook my hand. I said no but was super curious why he’d even ask that. Heh said that he just found out that his brothers didn’t like even getting hugs from their dad.
My friend visibly distraught was like “I feel like an ass hole. I’ve been hugging my brothers all these years. I give ‘em a little slap on the back sometimes. Walk up put my hand on their shoulders. All this time they hated it, but didn’t have the heart to tell me.”
For me a xinnial, and even for my friend that was just the kind of shit you had to deal with when it came to old people. Boomers, silent, and greatest generation (generation X is fake news) were very handsy people. To them the way you touch eachother speaks volumes about you without a single word. They would say “oh he has a limp handshake he must not be manly”. Bro! You grabbed my hand too quick it’s not my fault!!!!
Ummmm anyway, looking back on it. I feel like gen Z has the right idea. I like the idea of a world where people don’t try to tell my personality by touching me. It’s just weird.
Hugs don't bother me but I don't think I've ever enjoyed a handshake.
Yes! I'd always rather not so I'm often not prepared.