Men's Liberation
This community is first and foremost a feminist community for men and masc people, but it is also a place to talk about men’s issues with a particular focus on intersectionality.
Rules
Everybody is welcome, but this is primarily a space for men and masc people
Non-masculine perspectives are incredibly important in making sure that the lived experiences of others are present in discussions on masculinity, but please remember that this is a space to discuss issues pertaining to men and masc individuals. Be kind, open-minded, and take care that you aren't talking over men expressing their own lived experiences.
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Recommended Reading
- The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, And Love by bell hooks
- Politics of Masculinities: Men in Movements by Michael Messner
Related Communities
!feminism@beehaw.org
!askmen@lemmy.world
!mensmentalhealth@lemmy.world
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You show emotions and they treat you like you’re crazy. It becomes a survival tactic after a while.
I often end up feeling guilty that I made other people feel uncomfortable when I open up and cry or even get choked up, so I just end up choosing to cry to myself alone.
Not healthy of me, and definately some internalized toxicity about being tough and whatnot. It's really tough to break that conditioning though.
If it counts for anything, I and many other women I've known, have felt and now do the same thing.
Sharing emotions is not something socially easy or often acceptable for women either, and emotional women have as many (if not more tbh) negative stereotypes associated with them.
Humanity is fucked across the board.
I think there is a trend for sure, sorry to hear that. I am trying really hard to be more supportive of folks expressing themselves more openly, especially other men, but it is really tough.
I'm also not great at comforting people, but that might be learned and conditioned more than any "inherent" ability or aspect of myself. Overall, I am working on being as kind and empathetic as I cam to people, we for sure need more of that in our world.
Or use it against you if they’re mad
Exactly, my emotions are never valid or respected so why should i have them, they just get used against me.