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[–] Nemo@midwest.social 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Me, I'm hard of hearing and probably have undiagnosed ADHD. You may have heard of auditory stimming: basically, that the ability to make noise that one can hear helps regulate dopamine production. I need to hear the door close to feel like I closed it. Hearing my own footsteps allows me to take my concentration off walking without falling over. I sing more-or-less constantly.

I stopped living in apartments ASAP because I didn't want to inconvenience those around me, but I can't just "be quiet" unless I'm actively concentrating on it the whole time.

People who use speakerphone in public were raised wrong, though.

[–] BertramDitore@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

I totally understand this, and it makes a lot of sense. But your type of behavior is not the problem. You are aware of this fact about yourself, so you avoid living in apartments. That makes you a considerate and thoughtful human being. I appreciate you, and wish my neighbors were like you (by leaving lol).

The shit I’m dealing with is at all times of day and night and is from all my neighbors, all of whom are very different people. The sounds are extreme, startlingly loud, and are clearly because of their lack of consideration. I’m continually dismayed that they’re so oblivious of their surroundings.