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- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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I'm gonna give you a little tough love: I think you need therapy.
Like, every week you put a post about how you don't think you're passing and you're ugly, and every week we all try to affirm you. You have to start loving yourself, and we can't help with that. You need professional counseling to find the root of your self-hate.
I get feeling ugly and unwanted. My wife left me a month ago, and, recently, I've been trying to find companionship. But, either people want sugar parents, or I get no f'n matches.
I think someone reported me on bumble for catfishing, and one of my pics was moderated, and I was FORCED to do a verification pic. And now, since my full face is on there, I've went from 150 matches to..... 0. Yes, it's a slap to the face. But girl, beauty comes from within, not without. If you keep not wanting to put in an effort and looking like shit because you DON'T put in effort, well, we can't help you. All these pretty faces get up, look in the mirror, tell themselves they are badass bitches who don't take shit from no one, put their makeup on, and face the day with a grimace and a smile. Cuz the world IS going to try to tell us we aren't real or we aren't good enough, but, goddammit, they're wrong!
I just feel like that first photo really did make me cry seeing it, its considerably worse than my selfies and I personally hate it.
Hon, my point still stands. Every few days you come on here saying "I'm ugly" and we keep saying "No you aren't." Idk what answer you're looking for, but we can't give it to you. I suggest again, find a therapist, and if you have one, talk about your self-image issues.
Edit to add: if you don't like those pics, why are you looking at them? Put them away if they have good memories. Throw them if they don't. Or give them to someone who wants to look at them. Why do you keep torturing yourself by looking at pictures you hate? What penance are you paying to yourself with this self-flagellation? You have the power to delete the pictures you don't like. Why haven't you yet?
I just wanted to know if other people agreed with me....
I'll be honest, I didn't even look at these. I looked the first time you posted a month ago and my opinion hasn't changed. Pretty sure none of our opinions have changed. Please. Seek help. This isn't healthy.
Most of us have moments like that, but they're just that: moments.
Give it time. Find yourself.