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How do you handle being misunderstood? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago by PlanetOfOrd@lemmy.world to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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I'm sure lots of ADHDers know what I mean. Situations where you're not meaning ill intent, but the way that a situation turns out makes it seem like you're the bad guy/girl.

How do you handle the situation without seeming like a victim or that you're making excuses for yourself? Do you explain the situation or just accept it and hope that enough time will reveal your true character?

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[–] 6mementomori@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

It depends. When it comes to friends and family, it'll sort itself out. People who will make a fool of you for it will generally not be worth keeping around and even if you try to save them, the relationships will likely rust until they die anyway. I find it mentally too exhausting to keep interacting with people with whom the experience is a pain 90% of the time for some fun for 10% of the time. Of course, when it comes to people in power, you can't really cut them out of your life. In that case, it's worth working to make them understand. That being said, you probably know already you shouldn't degenerate to writing everything off as your mental illness and avoiding working on yourself. Which is hard to do, I don't know how to do it either.