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Have you ever been sexually attracted to someone you found repulsive? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 year ago by spitz@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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It happened to me recently at work. I don't even find her physically attractive, and her personality is not what I'm into at all. But I was still somehow attracted to her - and she also was to me. She didn't like me, and I certainly am not the kind of man she goes for. It's like we had a strong connection in one area beneath the subconscious or something, but every other area was completely incompatible. Aggressively so.

Anyone else have anything similar?

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[–] russjr08@outpost.zeuslink.net 10 points 1 year ago

Yes. I'm pretty sure its by the same virtue behind "The heart wants what the heart wants" (as in, same underlying concept). There are plenty of times where my conscious and subconscious disagree on what I "want".

However, it only takes going down the road of "Well what if its not as bad as I think..." a couple of times to solidify the idea that, yes, it can absolutely be as bad as you think...