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It happened to me recently at work. I don't even find her physically attractive, and her personality is not what I'm into at all. But I was still somehow attracted to her - and she also was to me. She didn't like me, and I certainly am not the kind of man she goes for. It's like we had a strong connection in one area beneath the subconscious or something, but every other area was completely incompatible. Aggressively so.

Anyone else have anything similar?

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[โ€“] lvxferre@lemmy.ml 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I get this all the time. In the past I acted on this sort of attraction, sometimes even hooking with the woman in question, but nowadays I don't do it because it's more trouble than it's worth.

[โ€“] 200ok@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[โ€“] lvxferre@lemmy.ml 22 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I was drinking in a bar, some 6~7 years ago, with friends. Eventually the friends went back home. But I'm a slow drinker, and I was in an exceptionally social mood, and alone.

Then there was this woman, roughly my age, on a nearby table. We chatted a bit; not to hook up, but because both were bored, alone, and fairly sober. Talking about random stuff; she was the type of person whom I'd avoid in most situations, I certainly don't care about her nails, what her sister did, and her church, and I bloody hate food-smelling perfume.

Frankly, I found her repulsive. Shallow, extra needy, and goddamn dumb. But damn, it would be bullshit if I said that I wasn't sexually attracted to her so I started flirting (ready to back down if she showed no interest) and she reciprocated. We spent the night together at her place. Sex was great, but then she started texting me every. fucking. day, to talk about the same sort of random shit that she was talking in the bar, and inviting me over again.

After that I decided "yeah, nah, I'm not thinking with my dick any more".