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Do you think intention is more important or perception is more important? (lemmy.today)

submitted 1 year ago by cubedsteaks@lemmy.today to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] Thorny_Thicket@sopuli.xyz 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Intention tells everything about you and perception tells basically nothing

[–] DarkDarkHouse@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

How do you arrive at someone’s intention other than by perception?

[–] Thorny_Thicket@sopuli.xyz 1 points 1 year ago

I answered this question below:

It shouldn’t matter. Even if you don’t know why someone does something there’s still an intention behind that behaviour and it matters.

Ofcourse that doesn’t mean you’re going to be fine as long as your intentions are pure even if your actions are perceived to be malicious because you might suffer the consequences from the misunderstanding but you’re still not a bad person.

The reverse of this would be a high functioning charming psychopath that’s great at manipulating people and is well liked but his intentions are to take advantage of you so they’re a truly bad person despite not being perceived as such

[–] cubedsteaks@lemmy.today 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

what if someone's intentions aren't clear?

[–] Thorny_Thicket@sopuli.xyz 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

It shouldn't matter. Even if you don't know why someone does something there's still an intention behind that behaviour and it matters.

Ofcourse that doesn't mean you're going to be fine as long as your intentions are pure even if your actions are perceived to be malicious because you might suffer the consequences from the misunderstanding but you're still not a bad person.

The reverse of this would be a high functioning charming psychopath that's great at manipulating people and is well liked but his intentions are to take advantage of you so they're a truly bad person despite not being perceived as such

[–] cubedsteaks@lemmy.today 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The reverse of this would be a high functioning charming psychopath that’s great at manipulating people and is well liked but his intentions are to take advantage of you so they’re a truly bad person despite not being perceived as such

Oh I have definitely encountered this type of guy before.

[–] C4d@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

I used to live with one. We called her the smiling assassin.

[–] Fondots@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Well that's your perception, isn't it?

[–] cubedsteaks@lemmy.today 1 points 1 year ago

lol that means my perceptions all messed up