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Framing men as the ‘villains’ in relationships also frames them as unable to change (www.theguardian.com)
submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by spaduf to c/mensliberation@lemmy.ca
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Though I don't think this terminology is used, this article is primarily about heteropessimism and it's effects on relationships from both sides.

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[–] spaduf 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

heteropessimism online and even partially irl but I think it’s breeding ground are „taking things for granted“ and just assuming what partners would like or want in relationships

I think a big part of this too is how these things originate through external gendered expectations (as in external to the relationship). A lot of the issues that inspire heteropessimism largely come from the older generation which very intensely internalized not only those gendered expectations but this idea that those external expectations are universal enough to supersede even a very basic conversation with their partner.

by the way is that a pun on the pokemon or am I nerding out?

Lol no just a fun short word that usually isn't taken as a username.