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Would more men be open to going to therapy if they had resources tailored specifically for them, and if the office had Emotional Support Animals for appointment use?

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[–] postmateDumbass@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Animals might be a nice feature, but if that is the selling point of the session ibdoubt much will come of it.

Therapy that tries to have me accept the fucked up state of the world is a non starter.

I would rather die than participate, enable, or support a corrupt and mal-guided society.

Honestly i do not think there is any hope for me. I can not trust anyone, so therapy isnt going to work. The only way for me to escape is death.

[–] ChocoboRocket@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I mean, you don't have to accept the current state of the world as good or natural because of therapy

Honestly, the world seems like it's always been a brutal place. Nature is fucked and most things die being eaten alive.

But you'd probably have to accept the state of the world is currently happening and that should be accepted becw, well, it is, regardless of good or bad.

Give it a try homie, talking things out with a professional can give you perspective of your own opinions and how they are formed, and how to process them in a way that is helpful.

It sounds like you don't want to accept anything that might suggest your opinions or beliefs may not be 100% correct, or that someone else might be "more right" than you - which doesn't sound healthy.

Therapy isn't some trick, it should help you understand and accept your own limits as a human, healthy boundaries with others, how to begin trusting people or how to identify those who are more likely to be trustworthy, and give you better understanding of your own agency and how to let go of things that are beyond your control, or individual abilities to influence/change.

No amount of therapy with teams of the world's greatest therapists will matter if you don't want to understand and grow into a better version of yourself though!

[–] postmateDumbass@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My life is evidence hunanity is evil by nature, deed, and desire.

I have been exploited and betrayed by family, friend, coworker, teammate, manger, etc.

There is no one i trust in this world because everyone i did trust, broke that trust to steal from me.

I have no desire to help or enable such a species.

Humanity has shown me its true nature, and my concious soul is revolted.

Death is the only way to move beyond the pain, suffering, and evil of this existence.

[–] ChocoboRocket@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Even if you have been greatly wronged by everyone you trust, that doesn't necessarily mean you were ever even around trustworthy people. So personal experience may feel like the only reality or truth but once you realize that it's only true specifically for you and only up to this point, you might be able to understand its not a universal rule or experience.

There's so much to experience beyond pain, loneliness, distrust and suffering (outside of incurable medical pain)

It does exist and it is available to you, but when anyone has their trust destroyed beyond repair multiple times it will take work to let the pain go and look inward and forward to get what you want out of life.

For all I know, you're the asshole in everyone else's life and you blame them for breaking your trust - or you are a complete victim who has been taken advantage of every step of the way and it's impossible to conceive of a person existing who isn't working every angle to take advantage of you.

You do have agency and you can control how you think and feel about most things. It sounds like you are convinced that life only exists in a single, permanent, unchangeable state - and if you don't attempt any change in this perspective it will become a self fulfilling prophecy.

But once you realize the control you can exert over these thoughts and perspectives you'll hopefully realize that despite other people, when you're an adult life is what you make of it, not what it makes of you.

It does take monumental, constant effort. Especially compared to how easy it is to give up/admit defeat/believe things are permanent and unchangeable. Doubly so if that's the mental state you're already in.

Therapy can give you the tools to climb the mountain, but it's not gonna move your arms and legs up the mountain for you.

[–] postmateDumbass@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I look around and its not worth it.

Humanity is a crude and barbaric species. It was a mistake for my soul to inhabit this vile creature.

And if IATA, even more reason for me to off myself.

Ive been patient, waiting for justice, waiting for people to realize exactly what kind of society their behaviors are manifesting. No such luck.

If anything people are naturally drawn into a rhetoric (sic.) based tribal facism.

And humanity will inevitably disrupt a peaceful equilibrium for their own gain.

I'd rather not be part of that.