Polyamory

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Unassuming word for people I have sex with (feddit.de)

submitted 1 year ago by Dislodge3233@feddit.de to c/polyamory@lemmy.world

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I called some people I'm seeing partners, but got scolded by a friend because I guess partner means a relationship that's more "serious". My friend suggested calling them lovers.

I'm emotionally involved with all my people and I care about them. I just get an ick from labels and relationship ladders (abusive family).

I'm looking for a word that's unassuming, but clearly says "I'm not single" so I can easily be honest with monogamous people.

Any suggestions? Lover sounds a little too much like cheating.

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[–] kerneltux@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

Yeah, other people adding hierarchical connotations to what we call people we're romantically involved with really rubs me the wrong way...so if some of what I say comes off as harsh, that's why.

Use what you & the people you're in a relationship with decide on...period. You decide what meaning(s) that word carries, and you're the ones that have to live with this decision.

I'm sorry, but whoever scolds someone for choosing a certain word to call people they're romantically involved with needs to back the f off.