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[โ€“] b000urns@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Just curious, do you think your attachment anxiety was the result of how a prior relationship(s) ended? Because I suffer from it a bit now and I'm pretty sure that is a fairly big reason.

[โ€“] Lemminary@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Definitely! I had such a streak of bad dates and relationships that I felt so traumatized. It made me so nervous while dating him that I was literally shaking when I felt that things weren't going right.

Funnily enough, two years later, now I feel the opposite. I don't really care about dating and I feel like I'd be the one detached. I just can't be bothered with giving so much for getting nothing in return anymore.

[โ€“] b000urns@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Well, you know they say, "The minute you stop looking...". Wish you the best of luck whether single or otherwise!