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The lengths to which some people go to not communicate their desires to their significant other
Exactly. I'd have no problem if my wife wants to partake in a little extra-marital cum play. Just please, tell me.
That's what I said to her... Hell, it would have been a blessing for me if she was doing things with other people sometimes.
I was feeling horrible for her because I have a terrible case of arthritis and I can't do stuff like a normal person, sometimes I couldn't even move for weeks or spend time at the hospital, so sex was almost impossible. We were doing it once every 4 months, maybe more.
The first thing I told her was "Look, if you're gonna do something with someone else, at least let me know first, I can understand due to the conditions so there's no problem if you really need it, just please tell me first".
First thing she did was not tell me, and that is what messed me up, the stupid lie.