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Could you help me with a bit of life advice? Ending uni, scared of going forward. (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 year ago by aeon_flux@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Hi,

I'm at that point in life where I'm facing big changes/having to take decisions for the first time and I'm scared.

I'll soon be starting an internship abroad with a good company and, silly to say, I'm getting cold feet. I'm scared of the move and about the future - at the possibility that I'll like it and want to go there, and leave the people here behind.

I'm also scared that my partner wouldn't want to come with me if that were the case. They say they aren't sure yet. I understand, but it still makes me feel anxious for the future. I would hate to be in the situation where I would have to choose between a good job and losing my partner. It's so silly writing this down.

I think I'm just rambling and could use someone older to give me some advice about the way their life went. I dont really have older role models around, I'm on my own with this one. I guess that's part of the problem. I'm full of internal conflict, on so many topics at once - from practical life direction to things like philosophical/ideological matters.

Thanks for reading this. Hope life is kind to you.

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[–] MiddleWeigh@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Just enjoy the ride. Being alive is crazy. Don't take things super seriously, cause tbh, ain't nothing worth any amount of undue stress. Not your job, not your lover, nothing. Follow your gut. Try new things. You probably won't feel at home in your own skin until much later, and the journey to that point is the BEST.

Your gonna hit rough patches. Don't fear or hate that. Take it. It's experience, and it will all culminate into who you are.

Let yourself feel your emotions, and actually think about them. It's a great way to get rid of unwarranted emotions.

Try to be mindful. And try to be appreciative that you get to experience anything at all.

Look I fucked my life up. I fucked it up. But guess what? I wouldn't trade my experience for the fucking world. Never. So did I really fuck it up? I've always been me.

When it comes down to it, life is very simple. And those are the things that tend to be the most complicated for us. In the end, your the only one who's gotta live with your decisions. At worst, you'll have some crazy stories or die 🤷

Sorry if that was unhelpful