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I think I'm a bit of an outlier with this, but I've tried both Leolines and TomboyX, and I've gotten the best results from just using 2 pairs of XXS boyshorts from Amazon. To reduce skin-to-skin contact, I also like to add on some very wide gusset boyshorts on top, and tuck the sides of the gusset between each leg. I find this very comfortable, very effective, and very cost-effective. I think the best way to figure out what works for you is to experiment and be resourceful. If you constantly test new ideas, your arsenal will slowly grow until you're eventually an expert!
u remember the brand of those boyshorts? they seem to be the cheapest and therefore best option
I used Amazon basics, but that's because they were the only boyshorts on Amazon with an XXS small size. You may or may not need something that small, so you might want to experiment with sizes.
Edit: I think the size and material is much more important than the brand.
how much below ur size is xxs? like how much smaller than what the size chart or something said?
also still op just on alt
That's a good question. It's hard to say because I'm pre-op, and I haven't looked at any size charts, so I'm not sure what size I would wear if I didn't have to tuck. The rule of thumb I've heard is that you should go two sizes smaller than you would otherwise, and I think that's about right, although I might go one additional size smaller
why does pre op matter? size charts are just based on waist or hip from what I saw
I never used a size chart, so I'm just going by what I feel like my size should be based on trial and error.
ah ok cool
I suppose I'll need some trial and error too