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I guess if you’re viewing your relationship as a form of restriction.
i think it is more like emotional distance?
its creepy to intentionally not be with someone else after a breakup because there is some weird lingering feelings. like get over it move on
One day after breakup you will have some lingering feelings and hooking up with someone else just to suppress them is not a healthy reflex I think. Especially if the other person doesnt know youre with them just to strike a “hit” and feel less shitty with yourself.
I've been in breakups where I immediately got with someone else and I've been in breakups where I wanted to take some time on my own afterwards. Feelings are complicated and there's no right answer to every situation.
It's not healthy, but rebounds are perfectly understandable. Like getting drunk alone after a break up
No I view being dumped as something that makes me sad and getting laid as a shot in the arm that cures the sads for a little bit so I don't become a mopey fuck