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How do I better support my trans supervisee? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 day ago by SchrodingersPat@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Hi Lemmy,

Apologies if this is a dumb question.

I have a trans person that I supervise and I know he is having a hard time after Trump's only two genders executive order.

Is there anything I can do to make sure that he feels supported at work?

I have regular check-in meetings with my staff so I was hoping to see how he was doing, but don't want to force him into an uncomfortable discussion.

Note: His performance is still excellent at his job so this isn't a "coaching conversation" or anything like that

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[–] potate@lemmy.ca 35 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I tackle this two ways.

I ensure that I have a progress pride bracelet, pin, or other clearly visible symbol of allieship on me at all times. I also have prominently displayed safe space signage around my office. There should be zero ambiguity of my support - my hope is that this both makes 2SLGBTQIA+ and any other marginalized individuals feel welcome around me, and I also find it reduces inappropriate jokes or comments from the broader organization. People KNOW that I will make a stink if they are assholes. I try to ensure a safe bubble around me.

The other thing I do is try to make it clear to my team that I care about them as people - they aren't cogs in a machine.

Ultimately, it's up to my team members to decide if talking with me will help or hurt. I just try to make sure that my door is wide open.

[–] Taalnazi@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I haven't heard of 2S before, but what you say is right. Keep being supportive, protect their privacy, and ensure that people who are marginalising them, get the right consequences.

[–] lemmus@lemmy.world 17 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Two-spirit. Used by Indigenous North Americans to describe Native people who fulfill a traditional third-gender social role in their communities.

[–] Taalnazi@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Aah, thank you! Interesting, didn't know that that was a thing.

[–] fireweed@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

AFAIK it's primarily (exclusively?) a Canadian thing

[–] FoxyFerengi@lemm.ee 3 points 1 day ago

It's used in the US too. I've heard it in both Montana and Arizona, at least