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What are some dating mistakes you often see when people try seeking a partner? (kbin.melroy.org)

submitted 3 days ago by Nyxicas@kbin.melroy.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I have a few.

One is abbreviation hell. Nobody is going to spend the time trying to decipher what you mean when you use over several abbreviations. It is just better if you'd explain than expecting people to understand aside from commonly used abbreviations that are easy to understand.

Another is overstepping your limits for the sake of getting a partner. Compromising your own standards is perhaps one of the worst things you can do when it comes to trying to find dates. Like you're suddenly okay with dating single parents but you don't like children. You're suddenly okay with dating religious people but you're not religious. Things like that. Because it means you're desperate and you're setting yourself up and setting them up for a bad date.

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[–] BananaPeal@sh.itjust.works 22 points 3 days ago (2 children)

It's sad to see people who want a bad boy/girl and just end up in a toxic relationship. It's possible to find someone who is badass AND willing to treat you with respect, but they are not common. It takes way too long for people to realize that the gentler person is going to lead to a better relationship in the long run.

[–] Sturgist@lemmy.ca 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

One might argue that the most badass thing someone can do in a relationship is treating your partner with love and respect.

[–] dukeofdummies@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

WHICH IS WHY WE TREAT MOXXIE NICE

AND EXPLOSIONS!!!

[–] surph_ninja@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I think you’re missing the point. They’re not looking for a badass. They’re looking for someone broken that they can attempt to fix.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

I think it's a lot of things. I've seen people looking for a badass, I've seen people looking for a project, and I've seen a lot of people looking to self harm by finding someone who treats them like they feel they deserve often seeking people who will tell them the same things their parents did