Lemmy reacts to a non-sexualized silly outfit pic in a totally normal way…
Previous posts in this series…
- incredible find: https://lemmy.cafe/post/10217719
- epic ratio: https://lemmy.cafe/post/9597634
- lemmy is a worse platform for women than reddit was: https://lemmy.cafe/post/4821164
Yes, that is absolutely unacceptable. But that has nothing to do with your personal situation and I would say it is unhealthy to relate the two.
maybe i just have a different view on things.
You have a common and problematic view of things. You asked if you are doing something wrong, it looks like you probably are. I'd advise you question your worldview a bit and talk honestly with folks you feel you can respect on how they got from where you are to where they are.