There's been so many new laws passed across the US (and some other countries world wide as well), that makes it feel like even visiting another area is unsafe. I feel like I can't go anywhere without feeling like the entire state is out to get me.

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[–] hellothisisdog@yiffit.net 6 points 1 year ago (3 children)

getting the hell out of here and headed to protected states. if they don't want us then i don't want to be here.

[–] sydneybrokeit@beehaw.org 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah, I just moved from Tennessee to New York. Look, there's stuff wrong with every state, but at least NY isn't going to try to kill me or invalidate my marriage.

[–] hellothisisdog@yiffit.net 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

right? we don't deserve the hassle. i know some of us can't flee to other states right now but hey, if most of us move to protected states then we'll be able to show that we're not a small number. we'll have little havens of sensibility and not have to worry about garbage "trans boogeyman" rhetoric

[–] sydneybrokeit@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Yep. I'm so sick of hearing people say we should stay in the places that want to kill us because we need to vote to improve things. Like... no, how about for once the so-called allies put their money where their mouths are and fight like we've had to?

[–] PauliExcluded@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago

I recently moved out of a red state to a solid blue state. My mental health has improved so much since moving to a state where I’m not constantly checking the news to see what human rights I’ve lost today

[–] hellothisisdog@yiffit.net 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

thank you. my florida friends are banking on someone to stop the anti-trans laws down there and i keep telling them that no one is speaking up for us. they want so badly for trans people to get the hell out of the state and it will be so easy for them because we're such a small, spread percentage of people. i hope we can all stay safe and keep coming out and growing a bit as a group because this is clearly a fight by ourselves. stonewall riots was started by trans women, but where is everybody now to help us?

[–] sydneybrokeit@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Seriously, we've all fought for so long. Why is it on us, the group with effectively no power, to protect us here? It is the duty of the strong (allies with actual power) to protect the weak (the LGBT community).

NY is pretty great so far. Weather is way nicer.

[–] hellothisisdog@yiffit.net 3 points 1 year ago

you'd think :/

happy for you 💙 i've never been to new york but with such a diverse mix of people i'm sure it will be refreshing to leave some of those old timey prejudices in the dust

[–] coffeeofdoom@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Washington is a good destination! Laws at the state level are very progressive, decent jobs market. The biggest drawback is the hight cost of living (on the west side of the state.)

[–] hellothisisdog@yiffit.net 4 points 1 year ago

ty 💙 was really my only downside i could think of for washington, the cost of living.

[–] sorta_severine@lemmy.4d2.org 6 points 1 year ago

Did the same thing. Fled a red state a couple years ago. I get that it's a massive privilege but I spent years agitating and the writing was on the wall. Within 18 months of fleeing, they moved to outlaw affirming care for trans kids and adults. I miss owning a home, miss my garden, miss so many things about where I lived (and hoo boy the higher cost of living is a drain). But at least I know that my partner and I can access necessary health care and if my kid should ever need to, they will be able to, too.

Bonus, not paying taxes anymore to a state that would kill me sooner than grant me basic human dignity and bodily autonomy.