I am! But I left 4-5 other instances before finally settling. Blahaj especially actually welcomed HB at one point because "trans solidarity", which opened the door to mass harassment. ......again. I was so absolutely disappointed because I was like "hey..don't" and was basically told off.

"Oh you can block them if you don't like it! It's up to the individual!" I'm sure that's fine if you're tough & completely mentally stable, but these people genuinely triggered my PTSD, which had not been a thing that had happened to me in years. It left me and my faith in this whole thing very very shaken.

That aside, I think sopuli only has ML unblocked because it has such large tech communities.

I really really really loved Beehaw, too, but after their talk about moving away from Lemmy, I scrambled to find another home.

An average user is not going to want to continually move around to keep themselves sane & safe.

[–] Blaze@feddit.org 2 points 3 days ago

An average user is not going to want to continually move around to keep themselves sane & safe.

Indeed, I think I'll just recommend lemmy.cafe as the safe recommendation from now on

[–] Kichae@lemmy.ca 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

They could outnumber and shout down the existing user base in a day. The number of active users in the fediverse is quite small. A tiny number of toxic people have killed the open social web for the next decade.

[–] tejan@hubzilla.monster 3 points 4 days ago

Unfortunately the loud obnoxious ones ruin it for everyone else.