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Lost all my friends every couple years growing up thanks to the US military moving us around. Do not recommend.
Got a great dad out of the situation though so I’m not bitter. Much.
Same except my dad was a PhD who never could get tenure anywhere because he has malignant narcissism and makes every workplace he goes to toxic.
You win. My dad's nice. My mom's the narcissist but pretty mild compared to a lot of the other shit I've read from people who grew up in that kind of home.
Ya but I don’t wanna win :(
I know man. It was empathy not congratulatory. I hope you’re doing ok. Not sure we ever truly get over the things our parents did to us though.
I'd bet, even if he doesn't say it, one of your father's biggest regrets is that you didn't have a stable location and set of friends. And if it's not, I'd suggest not bringing it up. Realizing that after all this years could be pretty traumatic.