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Because others have gone out if their way not to be reliant on me specifically.
People never let me plan things, people treat me like a child, people always ask other to double check only my work, etc...
The worst thing is its a positive feed back loop. People think you're dumb and don't give you any opportunities, less opportunities means less experience, less experience means you appear less competent, being less competent makes people believe you're dumb.
I don't know which people you are talking about, but if it's adults and you are a kid, then there are some reasons behind that... :)
My kid planned a trip to Croatia with his friends and they managed to book flights that made them spend the entire night at airports, because they wanted the cheapest price.
Counting in that they had to buy airport food and hardly slept at all, and came home wrecked and had to sleep all day, meant that not only did they pay more for the trip than directs flights would have cost, they also lost a day when getting back to sleep and rest...
I mean, it's fine, but it shows inexperience and unwillingness to listen to adults who may have good ideas... :)
At the same time though, this kind of thing is the best sort of learning. Take your assumptions and make a theoretical model, go out and test it, and learn first hand what elements you didn't account for.
My opinion is that once your kids hit a certain age, your role is more support and providing guidance to avoid/recover from really bad outcomes (see: if your son's plan had a flaw that would've left them stranded. They made it there and back, if exhausted and slightly [but from the sound of it not unrecoverably] poorer. Shitty, but they probably learned some valuble lessons.)
Edit: This may just be copium from my own "I'm gonna move to the middle of a different province with my homies" adventure that left me with just enough cash for a bus ticket to supportive family if I survived on Corn Flakes for two weeks. Ah, to be 19 and know everything again...fuck that would suck.
I agree :) And I let them make this mistake for that reason too. Just like you say, it's best to go out there and try things and sometimes fail.
I still fail when I go my own way but I prefer it, because when I succeed, it's also my own win!