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[โ€“] Akasazh@feddit.nl 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Wow that's a lot, thanks for sharing. I can only pretend to understand the hunkering you must feel.

The 'pikte of things that have failed' mentality is the destructive part, together with the idea that having a baby would complete you (even though you acknowledge that as a false thought).

I can't do much to help you, but wish you success. Try and be slightly more selfish for yourself outside of this idea, make yourself the child you want to show the world. Literally. We go to zoos and dunno patches and castles as those are usually places you go to with kids, but we feel like treating ourselves to it.

Do this even though you're still in limbo as to what your womb dictates about your fate.

Veel sterkte, succes met het opschrijven en verwerken. Heb jezelf lief en zoek de anderen op die dat ook doen!

(Ik had je getagd als mede Nederlander vanuit een eerdere conversatie)

[โ€“] Shelena@feddit.nl 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Dank je wel voor het lieve bericht! Ik ga soms naar de kinderboerderij, dat is volgens mij een beetje hetzelfde. Meestal probeer ik mijn neefje ofzo mee te nemen, maar soms ga ik ook gewoon. Dat is eigenlijk een beetje hetzelfde. :-)

[โ€“] Akasazh@feddit.nl 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yup zorg goed voor jezelf, ik zal voor je duimen!

[โ€“] Shelena@feddit.nl 1 points 1 day ago

Dank je wel! :-)