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What was something you learned too late in life? (lemmy.ml)

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[–] weeeeum@lemmy.world 7 points 3 weeks ago

Figuring out abusive relationships for me was hard because I knew friends with good intentions, and gave valid criticism but were absolutely brutal about it.

Now I very rarely associate with very insecure people. They are always looking to "prove" themselves, often by putting others down.

They can't just accept someone's accomplishment, they have to go "well actually you got help from so and so..." And always try to undermine your achievements. Extremely mentally exhausting people.