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AKA please, don't tell me "get professional help". Poor people can't afford it anyways.

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[–] Dagwood222@lemm.ee 22 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Don't do it on your own, do it with other people.

I found that the more time I spent with other people, the less time I was spending beating myself up.

[–] aramis87@fedia.io 16 points 2 months ago (1 children)

There's an AA saying that the opposite of addiction is community; I find the same thing is often true of depression.

[–] Dagwood222@lemm.ee 15 points 2 months ago

Ever heard of the cocaine mouse?

The experiment was to put a mouse alone in a cage with two water sources. One had sugar water that would keep the mouse alive, the other had cocaine and no nutritional benefit. The mouse would keep drinking the cocaine and starve to death.

Then someone tried the same experiment but they gave the mouse companions. With other mice around they would all eat.

https://www.futurity.org/mice-addiction-cocaine-959182/

[–] tedd_deireadh@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

Highly agree with this.

I struggled with depression for years and the most beneficial change I made was to put effort into developing close friendships. Having friends and family that you can talk to and share things with is immeasurably valuable.

Also, listening to other's problems helps develop your own empathetic response and it's a short step to extending that empathy to yourself. Be kind to yourself and avoid negative self-talk. You deserve better. Life is hard enough as it is.

[–] Platypus@lemmings.world 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] Dagwood222@lemm.ee 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You're literally interacting with people right now.

There are people online who need help with all sorts of problems.

If nothing else, you can just listen to what they have to say.

[–] Platypus@lemmings.world 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Online interaction does nothing for me.

[–] Dagwood222@lemm.ee 1 points 1 month ago

It seems like if what you're doing now was working you wouldn't have posted.

Why can't you interact irl?