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[–] LustyArgonianMana@lemmy.world 10 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Current news articles:

  • woman was recently raped for decades by dozens of men in France, organized by her husband.
  • Woman, Olympian who just competed this summer, dies of burns from her male partner.
  • Woman is murdered by boyfriend and then pureéd.

I wish those guys had had a doll. But no, nothing is quite as good as a living woman to control instead ig.

There are 2 distinct types of love. Unconditional love, and conditional love. These 2 types actually oppose each other.

  1. Unconditional love means "I love you, including your boundaries, and I will respect those boundaries as a show of love even if that means we cannot be together because it conflicts with my boundaries."

  2. Conditional love means, "You must prove you love me by sacrificing your boundaries and personhood. Your boundaries and autonomy show you do not love me and thus upset me. Being willing to separate to keep boundaries intact shows you can escape my control, which terrifies me." Narcissistic relationships feature conditional love quite strongly. They often require heavy enmeshment as part of this boundary trampling. This is also the same type of "love" or relationship dynamic that exists from a boss to an employee. Or a slaver to a slave. There's a reason these guys who love controlling women would actually benefit from a doll. But dolls aren't usually "good enough" because they don't have boundaries to violate even though they allow for ultimate control. This is also why conservative men REALLY REALLY like leftist women and not their fellow conservative women - more torture potential and boundary violation potential.