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I stopped drinking alcohol some years ago. Before that I hardly consumed any alcohol at all for many years, but in my college years and maybe some years after that, I drank socially like "everybody else". But I gradually kind of got tired of dealing with the bad feelings (physical and emotional), so I drank less and less.

And maybe because I drank less and less, even one beer often just made me feel kind of bad, so then I just stopped altogether. Anyway, I'm curious if this has happened to anyone else? And how do you go by it socially? What do you order at a bar? Maybe I'm a little afraid to go to places that has an "alcohol culture", even if there are some places I would like to go. I don't want to drink, but at the same time I don't want to appear weird about it either.

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[โ€“] Fubar91@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I don't drink any more for the same reasons. There's plenty of people who don't drink at all due to whatever choices like religion, health, etc.

If people ask I just say "nah I don't drink because of health complications" 99.9% of people don't push any further. I just order water or a soda if I'm feeling it. What im drinking isn't anyone's concern.

The weird part is thinking you're appearing weird. Literally noone cares. Go have fun.

[โ€“] guybrush@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Yeah, I think this is how it is. I think I'm appearing weird even though people probably cares less than I think. I guess it is why I wrote this question. I'd like to know how people got over this phase and stopped worrying. Blaming health complications feels somehow dramatic... but maybe I'll use that one if someone really pushes and it's half true in my case anyway.