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Who says "...maxing" nowadays? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 2 months ago by Sibbo@sopuli.xyz to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I have read people write and heard people say words like "jobmaxing", "hobbymaxing" and stuff like that. I guess I understand what these words mean, but I am confused as to where the "...maxing" thing comes from.

I had totally normal people talk to me like this, but I also somehow connect it to Andrew Tate and people like that. Is using these words - to you - a telltale sign of a guy who has issues with women? Or is it something you also would say in a normal conversation (assuming you treat women with respect)?

And does anyone know where these terms originated from?

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[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Same, I associate it with incels. Wikipedia even tells me,

Proponents of "looksmaxxing" refer to simple practices as "softmaxxing", including proper hygiene, skincare, hairstyles suited to one's face shape, exercise routines, wearing fashionable clothing

Soooo, incels need a special term to make hygiene palatable to them. Uhuh.

[–] feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Not worth criticising, it's just confused and alienated people attempting self-improvement. That's a positive thing.

[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 1 points 2 months ago

To each their own, but I think inceldom as it is, not what it was briefly when coined by a Canadian lesbian in 1997, is absolutely worth criticizing.